Should My 9 Year Old Daughter Be Evaluated?Thu, Sep 19th 2013
When my daughter was around three she began throwing terrible temper tantrums. They usually occurred in stores when she did not get her way. She would do crazy things like pull her hair and claw at her face.The behavior problems continued once she started school. She displayed very defiant behavior such as refusing to get out from under her desk, tying her shoes together, stabbing herself in the arm with a pencil. She even walked out of school once in the third grade and threatened to walk home. She has also told terrible lies for attention, such as her brother is dying from cancer(which he is not). She even threatened once to cut herself with scissors at school.
She is now in fourth grade and has terrible mood swings. One minute she is a perfectly normal happy little girl and the next she is screaming at people. I have noticed that the episodes seem to be triggered by stress. At the end of an episode she apologizes and says she loves me but that she just cannot control herself. Her tantrums get so out of control that she says everyone hates her and threatens to kill herself. I have tried everything and have loved her unconditionally, but I am to the point that I am so stressed that I am exhausted.
Is she just a typical brat like most people say or could this be more serious. Also who should I talk to?
Thanks, A Worried Mom
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